So what is the Kuala Lumper tower BASE jump all about? On the surface it’s 100 of the most talented BASE jumpers from around the world coming together to jump off one of the most iconic buildings in the world, but that’s not the whole story. For me the whole story was told simply and in one moment by Chris “Douggs” Mcdougall, while no one was wearing a parachute.

 

Around midnight 60 of us found ourselves at a bar down the street from KL tower in the heart of the Malaysian city-scape celebrating the end of the tower jump event.  Drinks were going down faster than the bartenders could pour them and in the height of the action I took refuge in a corner seat next to Douggs and a crew of friends.

 

As people brushed passed the group, one stranger stopped to eye fuck the shit out of Douggs. He was a tall European looking man, well dressed with purple nail polish and coolly sipping a martini. The stranger brushed up against Douggs in an aggressively romantic move, but as soon as Douggs gave him his full attention the new comer backed up sheepishly with a half-hearted challenge for Douggs to come flirt. The next several moments were spent with the two men squared off, Douggs waiting for this man to make a move and the stranger frozen in indecision; too scared to get closer and at the same time too attracted to walk away. After several moments it became clear that the stranger was too afraid to go any further down the rabbit hole.  Now as far as I know Douggs is straight and had no idea who this person was. It’s also entirely possible that my recollection of this incident is a bit hazy, but what is absolutely clear is the image of Douggs grabbing this man by the cock and balls, pulling him in close and French kissing him. It happened so quickly that no one, not even the stranger had time to register what had happened. So, with his wife and the rest of us looking on at full attention, Douggs did it again.  And in that moment Douggs was more comfortable being someone he was not, than that man was being someone he dared to be.

 

Douggs has always been a teacher in my eyes. He taught me then and there, that the more comfortable you are with yourself, the more capable of bringing joy to others you’ll be. For me this is what the KL tower jump is all about. We B.A.S.E jump for ourselves all the time. But this event is about passing on as much joy as we receive. It’s about showing an observer, in one of the most regulated places in the world, first hand how to take the fast way down. It’s about exemplifying the freedom one can have by being completely comfortable with who they are and unabashedly kissing a stranger in celebration of a single moment which is happening right now and will never be again.

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